CoachCasts™

This week’s CoachCast™ features author and counseling psychologist, Kerry Cohen. “Loose Girl” is a memoir about Kerry’s descent into promiscuity and how she gradually found her way toward real intimacy. It is also a story of addiction – not to sex – but to male attention, how she came to believe boys and men could fill her emptiness, and how she tried to control them by handing over her body. She finally learned to allow longer, more enduring relationships to grow. She learned to quiet the desperation and allow herself to be loved.

It took Kerry ten years to get from the first spark of an idea to the first full draft of Loose Girl. Kerry explains, “We live in a culture where women talking about, even thinking about, our relationship to sex is laden with pre-scripted understandings. Head into the world of girlhood and sex, and those limitations are even greater. I knew that I had spent most of my life obsessed with boys. I knew that my relationship to that felt secret and misunderstood. There were two lines of discussion when it came to what that relationship must be: I was either a whore who had no self-respect, or I was empowered and above cultural restrictions about who I had to be. But neither one of these roles fit me.”