I was recently on my local TV station’s mid day magazine program on the subject of breaking up.  They wanted my relationship advice on a recent Men’s Health article about who is breaking up harder for – men or women?   I started thinking and researching this relationship question and this is what I concluded…

A lot depends on several factors such as the age of the person.  When we are young, we may not have a good sense of self.  We don’t have much experience with love relationships and breakups.  We fall heavily into love and our emotions run strong.  So when we break up in our fragile 20’s, it hits us harder.  One of my client’s son’s girl friend broke up with him.  He was devastated.  He thought she was the one.  It turns out she wasn’t ready for a serious relationship commitment.  He didn’t have the perspective to see that this may have been for the best for both of them at this stage of their life.  In time he will move on and meet someone who wants what he wants.

For those women in the mid to late thirties and early forties, a break up may hit really hard.  I had a client who came to me after a horrible breakup.  She had been dating a guy for two years and was expecting a marriage proposal.  Instead, the boyfriend broke up with her.  Here she had a disappointed dream of happily ever after.  She really wanted a family too and her time was running out.   I think breaking up is very hard for women in this age group, especially if they want to still have a family.

In my next blog post I will explore other factors that make breaking up hard to do!

How have your break ups been?  What has been hard for you about breaking up?  What have you learned from your breakups?

This inquiring relationship coach wants to know your answers to these relationship questions and any comments you may have on this subject.

Your relationship coach,

Amy

P.S. You can join my free tele-class on Monday 5/18 at 9 EST pm on “Summer Travel or Vacation Plans Strategies”.  Sign up at www.heartmindconnection.com/telegatherings.html .

P.S.S.  Get your relationship questions answered!  Subscribe to my email notifications for helpful dating and relationship advice and tips to move you forward towards your goal of meeting a partner for a committed serious relationship or to enhance your existing love relationships at www.heartmindconnection.com .  Sign up for my next tele-gathering at www.heartmindconnection.com/telegatherings.html .   Also, you can download a free chapter of relationship advice from my book, Get It Right This Time-How to Find and Keep Your Ideal Romantic Relationship at www.GetItRightThisTime.com.